Dating Communication Tips
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- Gaining Information – The key to seeing if someone is indeed a good match for you is to gain as much information as you can, which is done by asking as many questions as possible. Now keep in mind you do not want to come across as a Drill Sergeant, but you do want to get past the surface. Try to learn about where they grew up, what type of work they are in, what things they enjoy doing in their spare time, do they have children, pets, and so on. Although it may sound clinical, keep a card or computer journal of information for each of the people you find interesting. Believe me, if you start communicating with several people at once, it can be very easy to get your facts mixed up. Therefore, by having the information on a card or computer screen in front of you when communicating with one person, you will not mess up.
- Physical Appearance – If you find someone interesting that does not have a photo posted, it could be for a number of reasons. It might be that he or she is new to the service and has not yet had time to upload a photo or it might be that he or she is in the process of updating a photo, etc. However, if that person has been with the service for more than one month and still has not posted a photo that should raise a small red flag. Additionally, if you ask the person to send you a photo and all you get are lame excuses, i.e., "I don’t photograph well" or "I don’t have a camera," then that too should send you a red flag. At this time, it would be perfectly fine to ask, "Okay, just curious, are you involved with someone?"
- Phone Calls – After you have been corresponding with someone for a while, most people will exchange phone numbers. If you were uncomfortable in giving your home phone, a cell phone would work in that it is not published and can easily be changed. Actually hearing a person’s voice and the way they speak can change the entire picture. Just be sure you wait an appropriate amount of time so you have the option of getting to know them online before you begin the phone quest.
